GHOSTS, GOBLINS, OR MEAN GIRLS!!-WHO’S WORSE??

Greetings FiNeSse Family!

Fall is officially here! I love this time of season..not to hot..not to cold. Love it! The school year is progressing nicely but this is the time that conflicts can begin to surface. During the fall season, issues between girls that have been simmering and simmering since August now explodes into World War 35! Maybe its the weather. Who knows with girls 🙂 Halloween is around the corner but I have to wonder who or what is worse, ghosts, goblins, or a ticked off teenage girl?

I know many of you work with young girls and ladies motivating them to be successful and to work through conflicts in a productive manner. TEAM! (in my coach’s voice) This is not the time to let our guards down! We have to be ready when the boiling pot explodes. Its coming…

Therefore, it is imperative to continue to keep the lines of communication open with our girls and young ladies. When you talk to the females on various issues, remember one important thing: Meet them where they are. Sounds easy in theory; however, when a young girl is crying on a topic that may seem trivial to you, it is important to remember, this “crisis” is important to her. We have to be understanding, compassionate, and most importantly restrain from using “adult language” (i.e. “It will be okay”, “Is that all”, “You are young…”) In my experience with working with girls and young ladies, this is Kryptonite to our Superman approach to Girls’ World communication.

So remember to meet them on their level in order to establish and maintain a productive line of communication.

Happy Fall!!

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OH MY GOSH! Not Another Mean Girl-Difficult Situations (Book Excerpt)

How to help girls face difficult situations?

Acceptance is a good starting point when faced with a difficult situation. As females, we are naturally the “fixer”. We want to fix everything, anything, and everybody to maintain peace. However, sometimes the situation is unfixable. If another female is convince you are talking about her and you know you haven’t said ONE word about her, this is something TMG (the misunderstood girl) will just have to accept. The other girl is going to believe what she wants to believe.

Is it hard sometimes? Yes! It is important she acknowledges that it does bothers her but it’s something that she herself cannot fix. Life in Girls’ World is a never ending roller coaster of emotions. The situation will eventually die down. If/when that occurs maybe the individual will be more receptive to listen to TMG side of the story, but if that day never occurs, help TMG accept it and keep it moving….

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